Russian Women Dating Myths and Facts

There is a well-known myth about a beautiful and undemanding Russian woman, whose dream is to be with the lovely western husband and who will sacrifice herself for her husband and her family. It seems that Russian woman is almost a perfect, but there are 80 million of Russian women, so they are different. It's not possible to compare a young Moscow girl and 30 years old woman from small Russian town.

There were many changes for a few last years in Russia and now the Russian woman finds out, that the family is not concentrated on her husband only, but on her needs also: she works as well as her husband, she brings up children, prepares food, keeps in order an apartment, washes clothes etc... She understands finally her independence and her strength: the Russian women start to protect their rights.

Some Ukrainian and Russian women turn towards foreigners because they think, that foreign men will be more attentive to them, that they will always listen to her opinion, that they will be more responsible, and that they will not drink as much as Ukranian or Russian men. According to their vision of the foreigners, that husband and wife are the partners, and men are helping to bring up the children. A lot of Russian and Ukranian women do not think, that the Ukrainian or Russian husband can understand these sorts of problems or remain true.

Russian girls are logically less careerists, than western women: this choice however, is more a compulsion imposed by a man's dominant society, than deep belief; each person adapts to a society inside which he or she lives. Your future wife, in time, will probably want to work abroad and have a successful career.

For Russian woman to be just a simple housewife it something like an unapproachable luxury: in their country they would work and at the same time have to the homemaker, and in most cases without help of electronic household devices such as a washing machine, a microwave etc. Clearly, being in the United States it is natural for them to be engaged in the housework if they do not work.

Russian women have in general a good educational level, real human qualities and are very dynamic: this is logical because the desire to marry a foreign man and the native country for this marriage is a long and difficult way, which needs a lot of qualities: so they are ambitious and also the most of them are hoping to find work abroad and not just have a role as housewife.

The majority of Russian girls, want to marry the foreigner for love, devotion and respect. And they know, that thousands of men from all over the world are attracted by them! In general Russian women show much more patience and tolerance than the western women because in Russia the main thing in the family is dependence and mutual aid! Everyone has his own borders of patience and tolerance but for Russian women resistance is much more. This explains that Russian women operate more easily, than their Western sisters; with conflicting situations in family life and that American-Russian marriages are stronger. The Russian woman will not allow her personal attitude to reach a threshold of irreversibility. It does not mean, that she will give in to you and you will be always right. She will handle difficulties between you and her and will reach her purpose peacefully and less complicated: the result is more important in her eyes than the way of its achievement. And you will not notice at all, that she already has received what she wanted!

Russian women in general have absence of trust in themselves and are more dependent on their husbands than the western women: for this they are obliged to the fact, that for decades they were victims of sexual discrimination and absence of respect from a man's part: their honor was frequently ridiculed. Besides, the Russian society does not except women playing the leading parts in all aspects of life.

Russian girls are more feminine than the Western women: while the western girls frequently wear the same trousers and t-shirts, as their male friends, the Russian woman is not afraid to wear high heels on a glaze of ice or to wear a skirt in cold weather. Russian women are always trying to take care of their appearance, even if they don’t have money. In the winter they stay elegant, without doubts they wear thin stockings. For work, Russian women put on the same clothes as American women put on when they go to a party.

Russian girls are using makeup much more than American and Western European women. However it is fair to say, that in Russia, some of the women are using makeup “too much” and they look like painted dolls.

Russian girls are more traditional in distribution of roles between sexes, than young Western women. Meanwhile, and in spite of what some might think, it does not mean that Russian girls want to be dependent and will be subordinate to her husband.

Russian girls reject the Western feminist model, preferring to reconcile love, family and successful career. Russian women make well with both these things: they, from generation to generation, care for their family and work outside the home.

Russian women in general have a good level of education and have a school base of foreign language (frequently English), but have no necessity to use it in daily life and they do not practice what they were taught. To read the letter in English takes a lot of time for them and if they receive a few letters at the same time, we will be not sure that they will have time to read them all! The letter written in Russian will be read 100%. The same concerns their answer to you: it will be necessary for them on the average all day (7 or 8 hours) to write two page letter!

If you use the translator, be sure that you don’t do a direct translation of your brilliant and smart letter which being translated into Russian will be hardly clear and will seem silly. Automatic electronic translation is awful: if you doubt, try to translate a phrase from English to Russian and then from Russian to English, you will see what it resembles: “nothing”.

The same goes with the telephone conversations: they do not speak English very well, usually, and a phone call will not serve the purpose for you, it will be only for an exchange of several words. Also your dialogue will not be rich and you will not find out much about each other (only your telephone company will be pleased).

Russian girls aren't adapting to a new country very fast and easy. Within the first months Russian girls miss their family and friends, they ask themselves many questions and cry sometimes. Do not think, that in the beginning of her living in a good life condition can make her easily forget all that she liked in her country. To arrive in an unknown country where she does not know anybody except her husband and it will be impossible to communicate because of her language barrier, extremely complicates her life and is a source of stress. She will be absolutely dependent on you (in the first months) and she will not be self-assured. But she will not want to go back to her country, because she knows that decision to marry a foreigner is not an easy choice. And her main purpose is to create a family and her desire will succeed, it is more than nostalgia for her country. In general Russian girls quickly start to speak and understand the English language (on the average through 5 - 6 months) and become more independent; they adapt gradually to the new conditions of life and are very happy that they have created a family. The present psychological transition between a new family (with you) and her former family (her relatives who have stayed in Russia) is done in general at the end of the first year: she will feel in depth of her heart, thus henceforth her family and her present life are with you.